Dealing

Some things that occur in your life are things you must deal with. Sometimes even when you deal with them, they continue to hurt.


What might Tara's mothers life have been if she had been taken to the hospital when it was first so clear that "something" was wrong? As it was (yes, it is a true story) her mother remained in a coma for a month. When she was being moved from bed to gurney (or back) for a test, the orderlies dropped her. Soon after she fell to the floor, within hours, she woke from the coma. She was dropped again later, and regained her ability to speak after that fall. It would be months more before she was able to walk.

Her children took up the physical and speech therapies after the insurance ran out. Their grandmother, the one their father hated, would stay with their mother throughout the day during the school year, Tara would take on that role during most weekends and many summers. Their father returned to his surly hateful self, often beating the kids with his belt if he came home from work and found out that his wife had had a seizure that day (or for some other indiscretion he decided was a major problem - based on what criteria the kids never knew.)

Their father's childhood was less than stellar. The way he acted was triggered by his own childhood. That is not an excuse for his behavior, it is a simple fact. That however is a writing for another day.